Wednesday, March 27, 2013

wise words for wednesday

I've spent this week in a very creative space with exceptional colleagues and very creative minds. Their charisma, ideas and passion is contagious, and I couldn't help but think all week of how their energy was something that was in the air. Have you ever felt this way?

Monday, March 25, 2013

sundreams

Whelp, it's snowing yet again, and I keep having sundreams. The kind of dream where I dream I'm lying on the beach with a good book and a cold drink.

Thankfully, I've dodged the worst of it with another business trip, but this cold weather is starting to wear on me. I must say though, that we have a beach getaway planned the first weekend of April to Florida for a wedding, and my bag is already semi-packed with printed dresses, sandals and a big floppy hat. I don't know about you, but I'm dying for some Vitamin D, and a new Zara dress or two?

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

wise words for wednesday

I'm Type A to my core...see Mr. S, I can admit it! And when I make a mistake, no matter if it's big or small, it eats at me and I'll even wake up in the middle of the night thinking about it...yeesh! These wise words are for all of you who need a reminder, like me, that it's okay to make mistakes, you're actually doing something!


Monday, March 18, 2013

are you leaning in?

women can have it all...

I am on the fence about Facebook COO, Sheryl Sandberg's new "revolution" for working women that she is calling, Lean In, which is also the title of her book. Now let me preface this post by saying I  was deeply moved and inspired in 2010 when I saw Ms. Sandberg's TED talk, "Why we have too few women leaders". Take a few minutes of your time to watch this - you won't be sorry!



The overarching message behind her new "lean in" message is that there isn't an equal voice for women  int he workplace or on a world stage, and that aren't enough women at the top in corporate America. I am fully on board with that piece of her revolution. Heck, I work in a place where there is only one woman in a director-level position in the entire organization. If that doesn't tell you you are living in a man's world, I don't know what does. Yes...I am serious. However, a portion of Ms. Sandberg's message is just not relatable or realistic for me. She says women can have it all at home and in the boardroom. In my experience, it's not possible to have a perfectly balanced, successful career and harmonious home life. Each day, we make decisions for our families that impact the direction of our career paths and vice-versa.

Unlike Ms. Sandberg, not all of us have the luxury to be able to pay someone (or a few people) to handle the responsibilities of doing the family laundry, scrubbing the toilets or picking-up the kids from school while we conquer the boardroom and climb our way to the top of a publicly traded empire.

Sandberg preaches that you must have a supportive partner behind you, and with whom you can share personal responsibilities with. Let's be real, when was the last time she had an argument with her technology-mogle husband about his lack of interest in helping with the mountains of laundry? (Side note: Ms. Sandberg is married to SurveyMonkey CEO, David Goldberg.) Riddle me that piece of this puzzle, because I'm pretty sure I've skipped going above and beyond at work a time or two because of responsibilities at home, and I have a partner with whom I share personal responsibilities with, and no kids to speak of.

women still can't have it all...


As I was contemplating this message (aka chewing Mr. S's ear) and researching more into this idea of "leaning in," I came upon an article by Princeton professor and former top State Department official, Anne-Marie SlaughterWhy Women Still Can't Have It All, and a very different take on the "lean in" revolution and message.

Ms. Slaughter attributes our society for the acceptable imbalance between the sexes and our roles at home & in the workplace. She left her role at the State Department after her term to be with her family, whom she realized she was not engaged with, despite the fact that her husband was at home and encouraging her career.

Ms. Slaughter makes a point to say that there has to be better role models and social norms that speak to the idea of having balance and flexibility to be our best at home and at work. But is that possible with such engrained social norms and high-powered women like Sheryl Sandberg telling women that we can do better?

...or?


I've also read other articles speaking to both Ms. Sandberg and Ms. Slaughter's points, The Backlash Against Sheryl Sandberg is Already Starting and A Titan's How-To on Breaking the Glass Ceiling; and watched Ms. Sandberg's most recent interview on 60 Minutes that brought a more human face to her message. Each of these view points still leave me feeling like I can't quite commit to one side or another. That's what healthy, open discussion is supposed to do, make us question each viewpoint to come to our own conclusions, right? Whelp, ya got me stumped.

While I'm inspired by Ms. Sandberg, I'm not "leaning in" quite yet. I just started her book, and will be reporting back to you on my thoughts and where I find myself once I get a more comprehensive look at her viewpoint in print.

But, I'd also like some insight from you all - What are you initial impressions of this new Lean In revolution? (I feel like I've done a lot of talking here lately...) Do you believe that our generation of women can shift the gender demographic in the boardroom? Have you given thought to making plans to leave the workforce for your family?

Am I the only one questing my career, my family and my idea of how they fit together?

Friday, March 15, 2013

st. patty's day

St. Patty's Day has lost it's shiny drinking theme for me...let's chalk it up to too much fun last year. So this year, we're having friends for dinner tonight, and I'm going to insert the luck of the Irish into the night with decorations instead of gallons of green beer. Very mature of me, right?  Here's my inspiration for this holiday of merriment and booze. Much prettier than a dingy Irish pub, right?

Happy St. Patty's Day everyone!




Thursday, March 14, 2013

accent required

Our house is full of square tables. I noticed it last night as I was looking at our sitting room off the kitchen. We've done some rearranging of the space, and need to add another side table, and by golly, I'm adding a round one. It can't be too low or two high, and I'm not too picky about the color  because it isn't sitting in the middle of the space. I just want an accent table to hold more of my "knick-nacks and do-dads" as Mr. S calls them. Here are a few options from Overstock.com and West Elm that I'm contemplating since they won't break my bank.

Do you have any go-to style or sources for accent pieces in your home?


Wednesday, March 13, 2013

wise words for wednesday

I am obsessed with Someecards and this one...well, it's on point this week. Do yourself a favor and carve out some quality time reading the cards. It's entertainment for hours! And yes, this post is terribly late in the day - better late then never.

Friday, March 8, 2013

we are bad friends

We are guilty of making each of these excuses a time...or...10.

The truth is, I may think I'm busy, but the reality is that I am not soooo busy that I can't have a quick text convo in between my meetings or pick up the phone for a 3 minute catch-up on my way to the dry-cleaners, and neither are you. There, I said it - your schedule is not any more hectic than the next gal - we are bad friends.

Whatever our reason may be, if we value a person being a part of our lives, we have to stop making excuses and make them a priority. No friendship, no matter the length of time or the peaks & valleys, deserves to be one-sided.

We are all simply selfish and lazy. It's become the norm and acceptable to login to Facebook to "Like" Jane's latest status about her new puppy and move on, or scroll through our Instagram feed and see what artsy picture Beth has posted from her latest business trip to Detroit, post a comment about the yummy dish she ate, and of course a "miss you gurl! xoxo."

We are doing ourselves a disservice by not interacting with our girl friends on a more meaningful level. We're not limited, like our Grandmothers were, to having relationships with our only female friends being those in our backyard. We owe it to ourselves to cultivate friendships with other women, new and old friends, and hold up our end of the bargin by putting forth the effort to stay connected to them. Every friendship is different, but none is worth ignoring that voicemail to watch the Real Housewives bicker yet again on a Tuesday night. We have to be better friends.

Last week, a sorority sister sent out an email to our mailing list that she and her husband were moving from Florida to Texas. It was what I considered a standard email to the group about an exciting life event, but she also made a note in the email that she was making it a priority to be a better friend and stay in better touch with her friends. I read the email and closed it sleepily before rolling out of bed to start my day, but her words stuck with me. She took the time to write us and tell us about her life, and to publicly make a vow to stay in better touch with friends. That took guts.

Her email continues to sit with me, and has spurred me to write this post. I'm here to say in front of everyone that I vow to be a better friend. I will text my friends to ask "how are you?," I will send an email checking-in, and pick up the phone to be your ear to listen. In short, I promise to be a better friend, making my friends more of a priority in my life each day. Will you?

Thursday, March 7, 2013

a new jc penney

Like most folks, until recently I associated JC Penney with the store my Nana took me to when she was on the hunt for a new house coat when I was a kid. We've all seen their recent wave of hip commercials comparing an expensive look to a more reasonably prices one found at their stores, and we may have even heard that they're in a pickle with market share and stock prices, but I'm here to tell you there's a new JC Penney behind those doors.

Two weekends ago, Mr. S and I stopped by our local mall to check out renovation progress, and entered through the JC Penny store. I. was. shocked.

Our local store has been renovated with a more upscale feel with clean displays, small boutique-like stores within the greater space, called "The Shops," and music pumping in that specific section geared at the specific target audience - i.e. sleek black lacquered racks and hip techno music in the juniors section. If there's a JC Penney in your town, no matter how small it may be, there is no excuse not to have a great outfit or a lovely home. They have done a really good job revamping the look for their stores, the designers they have partnered with (Jonathan Adler is debuting a line of home goods this month!).

The bottom line is that JC Penney has really brought a new spin to the customer experience in their stores, and I like it. Without change, there's never an opportunity for success, even for a mainstay brand in the fabric of American malls across the country!

I personally fell in love with Joe Fresh line of clothing, and keep coming back to these few outfits as I think through my spring wardrobe.

images source: www.jcpenney.com

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

spring necessities

It's snowing here...we're expected to get over a foot of snow here today! As of 8 AM we have 10 inches...and it's still coming down! Spring, please?!!



With all the recent planning to attend weddings in warmer climates, bachelorette parties and a beach trip for the two of us this summer, I am dreaming of bright new shorts, a fierce pair of shades and a few new dresses  and a maxi skirt. These are just some of the things have my eye on that are certainly spring necessities for the temperatures that are around the corner....they are around the corner right? What are you lusting to add to your closet this spring?
spring necessities



Jack Wills cotton dress / J.Crew top / Karla Colletto / J.Crew short shorts / Elastic waist skirt, $48 / Strappy wedge / GAP / Ray-Ban ray ban optical / Agent Ninetynine straw hat, $25

Monday, March 4, 2013

i apologize

I apologize I was MIA last week. If you've been following me on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, you've seen that I've been traveling the last few weeks. The travel has been for work and on the days we've not been running to catch another plane, I've been catching up on work, sitting in 8 hour meetings, and then in between it all trying to soak-up time with Mr. S and our friends & keep up with life.

The best part of all of the travel has been the reflection, the reading, the planning, the goal setting and ideas that I've had come to me with long hours sitting in airports and on tarmacs. I am itching to bring some of those to you all VERY soon, and hope that you're as excited as I am.

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